I believe in you.
Try that again….this time slowly, and pretend someone else said it to you.
I believe in you. How do these words make you feel? Did you smile? I would think that they would make you feel loved, confident, and like you are doing something good. It just feels good to hear those words, right?
I am guessing at this, going by what I have seen and felt. Although, I have given those words to someone and it seemed, when he received those words it was as if his whole being changed. It was like he received everything he needed to help him aim for a better life. His demeanour and expression expressed much confidence from then on. Yes, I saw good in this person, but he couldn’t see it until he heard those words. He needed encouragement to continue to do things right and pleasing. Those four simple words seemed to have tipped the balance in favour for all that is good.
As for myself, I have never received this expression (verbally), but I do see many examples directed toward me, in the fullness of it’s meaning. I am not without knowing many times over these days that my family believes in me. They have shown support in all that I set out to do. Whether it’s an adventure of trying something new on the homestead, or future dreams, adventurous ideas, or giving encourgement in my next commitment.
My point is, I know I have been truly blessed to be surrounded by family and friends who support me/believe in me, encourage me to keep stretching out, and growing talents.
At first they were holding the door open for me as I hesitantly walked through with a dream. And now, they have expressed complete trust in me, to the point where the door has been flung completely open for me to expand on all my heart’s desire. A thirst that I cannot imagine will ever be quenched! I am truly blessed! I too, now know how that young man feels.
You can do this! Come on; let’s do this! Get R’ Done! I know you can do this! Try, try, try again! You are great at that! Well done! Keep it up! Keep going! Don’t stop! Can’t wait for you to do more! Well done! Excellent work! A! A plus! Job well done! Awesome! Beautiful work! Can’t wait for the next one!
There are so many compliments that in essence express the belief that someone is worthy of something. This extends deeper to an individual belief that there is a purpose in life for that person. Did you know that!? I didn’t, until it actually happened to me. Someone believed in me…encouraged me without criticism. Bit by bit, this set me to a dream once crushed. I never really grasped the full climax of a simple compliment until then.
It was but a few months ago, I found myself reaching out to help someone close to me. This person was in a severe trial resulting in a decline of severe depression. A very taxing and stressful place to be in, where a false belief of unworthiness can easily creep in on one. Thus, closing the curtains on every dream one has ever had. A slump of despair that can only be turned around if someone else reaches out to that lonely one. At this point it usually takes a few people to help, but like all things it starts with one reaching out.
Today, this person is now turned around again, reaching out to others. The calendar that once sat empty, is now marked up full with purpose, and providing a very busy life.
This got me thinking…
Could you imagine what it would be like if sincere compliments were to be paid forward. And not only once a day, but everyday, all day! I started to wonder what it would be like, if everyone around me were to start every conversation in their day with a sincere compliment to every person they spoke to that day?
I know first hand now, that surrounding myself with these ‘types’ of positive people can and do make my life positive, profitable, and accomplished.
Oh, sure it’s easy to get compliments in grade school and secondary school. Teachers there know the value of compliments because they can see the effects that encouragement can have on the little ones. But how often are compliments of encouragement, to better ones self, given out after the basic education of life is over?
I pondered… Unless you are surrounded by a family who loves to communicate daily, or as often as weekly even, I doubt many people receive sincere compliments. And, I’m not counting the potential of eating in restaurants, or being in any place where someone is being paid tips or a commission to serve you. They might come off genuine, but really, they are just good at serving their pay checks 😉
So, I asked myself, how many sincere, true, compliments did I give out today? And my answer was…I sucked at it ( a lot). BUT, I know I can change this! What is needed is the obvious… It starts with me! Then, it should trickle out and multiply. After all, if a wise man becomes wise by hanging around wise men, wouldn’t this application apply to complimentary people?
A kind word; A soft-spoken answer. We’ve all heard and seen the power of such. We all know the rarity at which they are spoken. Simply by recognizing how many bad days we’ve had in our time vs. the ones that have been turned around by a kind word, or gesture. With this being so, I see in myself where I can help improve my surroundings. I can help others to be, and to reach their fullest potential. This simple act of kindness, of giving, like all acts of giving, is investing in others as well as, investing in myself. One that says all those around me, including myself have a purpose, and are worthy.
But we already know that, right? We already know the end of the story. We already know who paid the first compliment, set the example, and who wins in the end.
And so my dear friends and family, in my hearts goal to become like a little child, able giggle at the simplest, happy things, and see potential in the least. I now know what it feels like to beam like a ray of light at the slightest bit of encouragement and go from crawling to walking, I might even start running!
As an adult with the delighted crows feet exposing themselves in a smile, I set myself out the goal to compliment more, encourage more, and to lift up more of those around me. In doing so, I am in fact, surrounding myself with the most successful, full potential family and friends with a purpose.
Whoever would have thought that compliments could be such a powerful gift!
You ARE Fantastic!
(C) Mammy Oaklee